Think Before You Curveball Divorce

Leave it to the Internet to make up new names for things that aren’t new and act like it just discovered or invented them, especially when it comes to relationship trends. For the past few years, the Internet has talked about gray divorce, but this is not a new phenomenon. Rather, before there were hashtags and clickable headlines, people called it staying together for the kids but then, once the kids were grown up, being honest with themselves about the fact that they could no longer stand each other and no longer had anything in common. These days, the Internet is talking about curveball divorce, which is when one spouse serves the other with a divorce petition out of the blue, without first telling the recipient spouse that he or she is filing for divorce. People who file for divorce as a curveball to their spouses have their reasons for doing so. Before you file for a curveball divorce, ask yourself whether you are being fair to your spouse, and check your expectations about whether you can fast forward through the most unpleasant parts of divorce. If you need help summoning the courage to tell your spouse you are filing for divorce, or if you have decided to let your spouse find out when the divorce papers arrive, contact a Mississauga family lawyer.

Curveball Divorce Might Be Easier for the Spouse Who Throws the Curveball, but Not for the Spouse Who Gets Blindsided

Before you surprise your spouse with divorce papers, be honest with yourself about your motivations. Are you doing it just to hurt your spouse as much as your spouse has hurt you? If so, the better option is probably to grow a spine and tell your spouse that you have decided to file a divorce petition. If your relationship with your spouse has deteriorated that the two of you can no longer converse with each other, the least you can do is tell your spouse by text, or ask another family member or mutual friend to deliver the message to your spouse.

If your motivation is a reasonable fear, then you should take your cues from your lawyers about whether to file for a curveball divorce, and your lawyers will probably say yes. Not telling your spouse that you are going to file for divorce makes sense if a court has already ordered you and your spouse to stay away from each other because of domestic violence. Even in this case, and especially if you and your estranged spouse have minor children that you will have to co-parent, the courteous thing to do would be to send the message to your spouse through your lawyer or a family member that you plan to file for divorce. This way, your spouse has time to start thinking about what requests to make in the response to the divorce petition.

Contact Zagazeta Garcia LLP About Curveball Divorce

A family lawyer can help you finalize your divorce, even if your relationship with your spouse is so bad that you can no longer talk directly to each other.  Contact Zagazeta Garcia LLP in Mississauga, Ontario to discuss your case.

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