Navigating Awkward Social Situations After Divorce

Divorce increases financial stress for almost everyone, even people who were financially well off during their marriages. Adjusting to lean times, which might only become leaner in the future, is not the worst part, though. The hardest part of divorce is finding a new way to interact with people, including but not limited to your own family. If you and your ex-spouse do not treat each other with open hostility and attempt to draw everyone else you know into your conflicts, then your situation is not as bad as it could be, but that does not mean that it is easy to deal with your ex-spouse, or with anyone else. Your divorce lawyer can help you navigate the financial aspects of your divorce. The rules about interpersonal interactions are yours to decide, and they are not the court’s business, unless you have minor children. In relatively amicable divorces, parenting plans only indicate which days the children will spend with which parent and which parent will transport the children when they go from one parent’s house to another. In more contentious divorces, the parenting plan will order the parents to communicate through co-parenting apps and to drop the children off and pick them up from another family member’s house instead of meeting each other face to face. If you and your spouse have separated and are considering divorce, a Mississauga family lawyer can help give you clarity about how your new normal will be.

Your Toolkit of Polite Answers for People Who Ask About Your Divorce

Being single after being married isn’t the only thing making you lonely; you dread seeing people that you have not seen since before you and your ex separated. The thought of their intrusive questions fills you with panic. It helps to have a brief, practiced answer ready, plus a list of topics to which you can redirect the conversation. Remember that you do not owe anyone an explanation.

This situation is even more challenging for people who were in the habit of sharing a lot of personal information. The good news is that you have time to edit your social media post or Christmas card before you transmit it to other people. The better news is that staying silent about your crumbling marriage was probably at least as difficult.

KIND and BIFF Are Your Strongest Allies When Interacting With Your Ex

You can’t avoid talking to your ex after you divorce, at least not in the immediate aftermath of the divorce or until after your children have grown up. The good news is that you can usually avoid escalating your conflicts if you communicate by text instead of talking. If you have children, follow the KIND rule (kid-centered, informative, nice, and direct) in your communications. Whether or not you have children, follow the BIFF guideline (brief, informative, friendly, and firm).

Contact Zagazeta Garcia LLP About the Social Aspects of Divorce

A family lawyer can help you finalize your divorce as amicably as possible, so you can rebuild your interpersonal relationships.  Contact Zagazeta Garcia LLP in Mississauga, Ontario to discuss your case.

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